Monday, December 26, 2011

Thank you..

A very common sight that always tugs my heart is the side walks around any swimming pool where parents watch over their little ones learning swimming. I guess it takes tremendous patience and more importantly love to be there day after day, supporting, chiding and encouraging their children not to give up. My rough estimate is that over 90% of the parents do not know to swim(especially the mothers), yet the way they encourage the off-spring to learn it is truly astounding :)

Which incidentally brings me to the concept of 'support' and how important it is for each one of us, as we try to swim along the tides of life. No matter, what kind of tide we are facing, it is heartening to see someone on the side walks trying to wave out to us and say "Go on, you can do it!" Advices come aplenty (since they are mostly given free of cost!), however I have started really appreciating people spending time and advising, I find great hidden 'support' in the exercise.

So here's to all of you who have been a great shoulder in this rather difficult year for me. 'Thank you' so much for being there in various forms - be it mails, messages or Face Book likes or updates, phone calls or BBM messenger and finally even that simple yet deep look that said "Go on, dont give up!"

Cant thank enough that you are a part of my life..Thanks for making 2011 memorable. Please continue to be a part of my support system year after year!

Sunday, September 11, 2011

The real address of Love

It was a rare relaxed Sunday evening when hubby & I were taking a nice walk along a lake near where we stay. What a sight! Lovely weather, families out on their Sunday outing, groups of friends playing pranks and posing for group photos, so many young boys and girls (called couples in our world!) cuddling in the sylvan shelters of the trees along the lake, far from the madding crowds. It seemed like a perfect world. Love, caring and sharing all available at one place.

If there is so much love energy why do people still hate, separate, abuse each other? Wondered my mind. Over the years of association with people around us, some of the relationships fade in to infinity, some are safely and conveniently kept away, some tag along as 'devoted followers' (generally most love to have a following that does not question our ability!), some seasonal 'coming and going' types and finally some who are sealed with us for life!

So what are the different shapes and shades that 'Love' takes over years with association with the same people? I see it in the form of trust and confidence in long distance relationships where we are away from someone we love for more than one reason! I see it in that ONE glance that conveys it all. I feel it in the voice of parents who long to listen to their off-spring now away. I sense it in that one liner call / message from someone who wants to know "If you are ok!". Most of all, lately I see it in hospitals. Gross as it may sound, I am convinced that is where it most obviously resides.

The very word of 'Hospital' brings forth generally a negative feeling of medicines, doctors, displeasing smell, blood and bills! However, beyond all this you can see deep love and caring, in each husband holding the hand of a weak wife, in a wife talking to a husband dying with brain tumor and assuring that all will be well, in children nursing their old parents, in friends taking turns to give company to their friend who is nursing some relative. Rest assured! Only the ones who really matter will take time out and be there.

So no matter one may have hundreds of 'contacts' or 'friends' on social networking sites or phone address books, the ones that really love you are the ones accompanying you to a depressing place like a Hospital! Investing our time in such relationships will be much better than the seasonal ones :)

Thursday, June 9, 2011

Of Fish & Chips

Sometimes we tend to just drift away in to the past tense without realizing and I am seem to be in that mode today. Thoughts go back to some wonderful days spent in Henley-on-Thames in United Kingdom. One of the first things that struck me was about the difference in food habits from India. Fish and Chips being the first to catch my attention. What a strange combination of eating fish with chips! But over time I realized it was quite a staple and accepted snack there.

Years have rolled by from then and I have hardly seen any Fish & Chips stall in India even now. However, closer home there is a favorite shop of 'Hot Chips' which is frequented by better half to get his regular quota of munchies. I happened to notice a fish seller sitting close to this shop and the smell / aroma /stink (whatever we feel towards fish) often happens to waft the breeze and kind of overpowering the freshly fried chips. Strange, I thought that these two completely different fragrances blended without the slightest strangeness in it.

Feeling a bit intrigued how these two shopkeepers could get along so well, I did probe(completely womanish you may label!) if there were no 'acceptance problems' with any of them. One owner being a hard core vegetarian (yes, in many parts of India fish is considered non-vegetarian) and the fish seller who could not probably sleep without the smell of fish around. Interestingly, both of them detested each others presence from the word 'Go', for obvious reasons! Each day they found (created) a reason to fight with one another. What changed the equations then? was my obvious next question.

Well, well, the rains in July 26 2007 when Mumbai came to a virtual stand still, their lives changed completely. In the rage of the rains, in the need for survival against all odds each one helped another in saving not only their lives but also their 'hard earned' money for the day. Not only that the pure vegetarian owner of the Hot Chips offered to his fish seller neighbour to give shelter to his prized catch of fresh fish and stored them along with his chips!

I am entirely convinced that disasters have a hidden message from the universe that we otherwise fail to learn. The theories we profess all the time are tested and verified when disaster strikes! Many a times we try and find issues with people around us and convince ourselves that their behaviour upsets us! The fact of the matter very often being that as much as we are trying to change others, they are also doing the same - trying to change us!

If we are wise enough to realize these differences and live with it, our daily life will be a joyous picnic every minute. If not we will have to wait for a disaster to strike to experience 'unity in diversity'.

What would you like? Fish & Chips to begin with? :)

Wednesday, May 18, 2011

Lost & Forlorn

It is all about getting used to your presence, day in and day out. How lost I am now that you have decided to stay out of my life for some time! I have heard may be a thousand times over that we need to be the masters of our lives and not give in to dependency on any one, emotionally or otherwise. But how does one stay away from the 'attachment trap'?

Your coming home everyday at the same time is almost taken for granted. I take pride of you when the others cringe about what they have in their lives. I have secretly even thanked my stars and the Lord for getting us together in this life.

Your spick and span look, no-nonsense attitude and at the same time the caring outlook has many a times left me asking me for more. I wait with baited breath for you to return home soon. Your deft fingers have worked like a charm for so many years and I am sure no one else can create the magic that you do!

In the mean while I must attend to chores at home needing my attention now that you are not there to take care of them. Sincerely and desperately missing you, my bai, my domestic help, my everyday angel..Shobha.

Wednesday, January 5, 2011

The Globalized Local Indian

We have entered yet another decade and it is quite interesting to see how we the people of India are taking everything in our stride and march ahead (be it morcha or marathon!)

December is the time when many migratory birds (err..people) come back to India to spend "quality time" with their near and dear ones. Being a part of a global family is now a accepted norm of life at least in the metros (may be true for all of Andhra Pradesh considering the number of people going abroad from there). It is quite heartening to see these globalized Indians give up their comfortable life and experience the life in India to feel one with their roots.

One such incident is when a friend of mine was trying to get his daughter learn the "Indian Potty Posture". I can never forget the sight of him sitting behind his little daughter in the loo and teaching her! It is a warm sight to see global Indians teaching local culture, values to their children and also relocate to India to "feel her" better.

At a time when the "cream" of Indians who have lived a good part of their lives abroad come back to experience the culture here, we are busy fighting over localization and language issues.

I feel quite embarassed and "uncool" when day after day we have issues of local rights being presented to us. I can never understand the nature of us humans, first wanting to unite everything under the pretext of being "One" and then keep asking to be divided as we dont feel one with anyone!

Whether the truly educated Indian will live to see local days or global days only time will tell. Whether the colleges teach English in Marathi (it's true) only our maturity will tell. Whether the global parents teach their children that India is a great country or a living hell on earth only our attitudes will tell..